Want to start dating Asian women and wonder if learning Asian languages and cultures is worth it?
Sure it obviously helps - after all you'll be able to
• communicate better
• understand why she does what she does
• makes you relate better with her family
but do you really need to invest in learning it? After living in various parts of Asia for 7+ years and having learned Asian languages - this is what I found...
There are some situations where you're much better off knowing your host country's way of doing things.
• do you live in a very "Asian" town or city?
• do you actually enjoy learning about your host country?
• does the woman you want to be with only speaks her native language?
In this case you will make your life a lot easier if you take the time to study.
When would it not be that helpful?
There are also situations where you don't really need to study it.
• do you live in an expat community in Asia?
• do you not really care to study (or just don't have the time?)
• can you date Asian women in your town that speak your language?
In this case you don't really have to learn the culture for dating. In my case I studied Korean because I lived in a Korean community in Seoul.
Korean women also didn't speak much English so if I wanted to date I had to speak their language.
I also do enjoy learning new cultures and ways of life so it was fun for me.
Then again it was also a commitment and studied every day.
You may or may not need to brush up on your host country's way of life. Then again it would be a pity if you didn't learn anything.
I've met expats who speak Japanese and others who speak Mandarin
(even one who speaks the hardest Asian language I've ever studied:
I've seen them benefit from speaking another language personally as well. Even for me as I travel around the Orient I can always strike up conversations with Koreans.
In fact just learning bits and pieces will help you out. You'll not only gain the respect of the locals and your date - you'll also appreciate a whole new world and will send yourself on an adventure.
Who knows? You might actually enjoy it…I do!
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