Can Black And Asian
Dating Happen in Asia?

Want to know what black and Asian dating is like in Asia?  

There are girls from Asia who want to date (and only date) black guys in all of the Orient…but are all Oriental countries the same?  

How do women from Asia view African-American men anyway?

Oh, and just in case you think:

"Won't she want to date me no matter my skin color?" Not really and here's why - we all associate a person's look to their culture.  It's a human trait and we all do it.  

So let's get into what that means for you and which countries would be better for dating women from Asia.


What Local Women Get From Dating
African-American Men Cultural Context

black and asian dating

Many local women prefer to date African-American men because they can get a much better black man than local man.

"What do you mean by "better"?"

I mean that their choices of black guys have

 • higher social status

 • more money

 • more fun and accepting

 • better looking

or a combination of the above.

This might be because how she looks matches more what black guys find attractive.

For example she might be too voluptuous for local guys.  Or maybe her feisty personality might turn off Asian guys too much.


Note:  Most of these girls are into black guys are also into Hip-Hop culture.  So they aren't necessarily interested in guys who don't fit that Hip-Hop stereotype.

It's a brutal truth but worth knowing.  One of my best friends is a black expat who doesn't match the hiphop cultural stereotype.  He doesn't get too many "black lovers" (not that he cares because he's more into Asian women that Asian guys find attractive…specifically Japanese.) ;-)

What else influences Asian/Black dating?


Local Women Who Want To Escape Their Own Culture

They've been burned with guys from their own country.  Because of that they turn do dating black men. 

Also some Asian women have personality and character traits that local guys don't like.  For example in Korea there was a beautiful Korean woman who would only date foreign men.

Why? 

Because she was too independent-minded and opinionated for Korean guys.  Her ex-Korean boyfriends would patronize her or tell her to stop speaking her mind. 

That pushed her towards black and Asian dating.

So now that you know the deal - where should you go to in Asia if you want to date Asian women?


Black And Asian Dating Is Easiest In

The most difficult country is Thailand.  The reason is that for them 'foreign' means 'white'.  So being a 'black' foreigner is alien to most Thai women.  Also the 'white-skin' mania in Thailand makes it more difficult for black men Asian women dating.


Korea, Hong Kong and Mainland China - It's still difficult here because women in these countries are more socially controlled (her friends would shame her if she's with a black man, for example.)

And The Winners Are

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Japan and Taiwan - Interracial Dating is the least socially controlled in these countries. 

Japanese and Taiwanese women are free to choose who they want to date.

This makes women in those countries more open to dating a black man.

Understand that I didn't make the rules. 

This is just what I've noticed after 6 years in Asia and what my black expat friends have told me.

So where does this leave you?



Can There Be Black And Asian Dating in Asia?

Yes there can be. Will it be like back home?  Not at all.  You'll have to be more patient and understanding than you'd have to be back home.

Your Asian date might have never seen a 'Fro' before.  She could have also incorrectly stereotyped you. In any case you'll also be discovering her and her culture as well.

So have fun with it and you'll be fine. ;-)

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