Meeting a cute Asian woman and want some first date tips?
It's normal for both her and you to feel the jitters. You both want to make sure it works out.
know that for me I'm always nervous before I go meet a woman - especially with someone from a different culture (and who's so cute!)
Rest easy: After being a dating coach for more than 5 years I've found some things that have worked for me and my fellow expats in Asia.
I'm sure they'll work for you too!
In fact this might be common sense, but you know what they say: common sense ain't so common. ;-)
Rest assured that you control the evening, and that's because you control this:
This is one of the most important first date tips. Where you take her sets the scene and the mood of your encounter. So it's important to know what mood you want to set.
Ideally you'd want to make her feel
So how can you do that with where you take her? I recommend taking her somewhere that ideally
• shows a part of who you are
• is somewhere that no one has probably taken her before (and is safe enough)
• can give you the chance to be together…alone…and where the mood can be more..sensual.
Based on that, what do you think would work better:
A dinner at a fancy restaurant?
Or dinner at your favorite burger joint?
A fancy restaurant (even for your typical Asian woman with regards to her culture) will implicitly tell her that you're a safe guy who wants to provide for her.
If that's what you want to convey then fine...but let me tell you a personal story that you might relate to.
I've been on dating a beautiful Mongol woman once (no she didn't rape and pillage me.) ;-)
Instead, I made the mistake of taking her to a fancy restaurant.
Since I portrayed myself as "nice and safe" when I went for the kiss I got rejected.
Because I set the expectations that she would be my nice girlfriend.
She wanted some fun and intrigue.
You know what happened?
My 'friend' who took her to a fun sandwich shop (you could put your feet in sand) and then a hookah bar.
Afterwards when he took her to his place they made love.
Does that mean she was "easy"? Or that he was a "dog" after one thing?
Not at all! Instead he took her someplace new
that was fun..and that he could be alone with her. He followed the these practical tips for a first date and made it happen.
It gave her adventure and intrigue (which was what she wanted.)
She didn't want the safe boring fancy dinner. Maybe when she's ready to settle down and get married perhaps I would have had a chance. But that wasn't the case (doh!)
So…spare yourself from my mistake. Avoid these bad first dates and make your evening work out. From there you take her to places that will make it happen.
So besides taking her to the right place on your first meet-up - what else can you do? Make your communicating with her easier and get a better idea of what Asian women want from men.
Do neither of you speak a common language? Maybe her English is minimal. Is that reason enough to not go talk with her when you meet? Not at all!
When I went to Japan I spent an evening with a Japanese woman who didn't speak English. Not only wasn't it fun but I had to do all the work to get our first date conversations happen
Make life easier on the both of you by:
• speaking in 'easy English'
• using the right props
• being patient (yes its tough but you gotta do this)
So if you know where to take her and you can communicate with her - what's the last piece?
Make sure you send the right message...
The BIGGEST mistake guys make when dating an Asian woman (or any woman for that matter) is to play it safe. The second biggest mistake is to take the whole thing too seriously.
In fact you can turn your fifty first dates into one once you know what to do.
Believe me when I say that if you're the first foreigner she's been out with - she's very nervous. Your job is to use these first date tips and make her feel
• comfortable and safe with you
• attracted to you
• …lust for you…
Do you know how to do that? If not check out these 3 dating tips for shy guys and why most other shy guy dating tips won't work. You'll get a better idea of how to convey those 3 things in conversation and body language with her. Yes even if she's Asian and doesn't speak your language.
You bet they will. Asian women can be very flakey (don't get me started with Korean women!) ;-)
If they don't want to meet you on that first date they won't (even if they promised to the highest heavens that they would.)
So if she's showed up then chances are she wants something to work out with you. Give her (and you) the best possible chance to make it happen: Grab a copy of The Art of The Date and other goodies that will prepare you for that meet up.
You can even check out RedpoleQ's first date tips on how to make your first dates among the best first dates for you and her.
Talk soon! ;-)
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